#Metoo and #himthough

Image result for sexual assault feminism

On the 17th October, we saw the hashtag #metoo sweep across social media platforms as Alyssa Milano encouraged women who have experienced sexual assault in any form to themselves comment with the hashtag. The movement gained a momentous following in just a few hours to raise awareness about the widespread gender-based violence women are subjected to throughout their lives. With Hollywood under the microscope, plenty of women and men have come forward with claims regarding sexual harassment committed by men in a position of power. Sadly, this issue is a global one, as women all over the world shared their stories of #metoo.

As Vienna Paharon commented ‘every day is a “me too” day’ as this issue infiltrates our daily routines as women, whether it be objectivized behaviour we are subjected to on our way to work or college, misogynistic remarks by male colleagues, or even the ridicule of a romantic partner. Society has victimized women and wrongful placed the blame on us. The use of the passive voice regarding ‘violence on women’ has had a negative political effect, as it shifts the focus from the perpetrators and instead places it on the victim. What we wear, how much make-up we put on, the places we go, or even the time of day we are out. None of these things are acceptable as an excuse of why we should be victims. We as women know this. Men must too. This is not to say that there are not men conscious of this, but there are many bystanders- and by this term I mean those who choose to actively ignore the abuse they witness.

In Dr Katz Ted Talk, he encourages men to be brave and support women by ‘interrupting’ behaviour they deem degrading to women. Telling friends, siblings, co-workers that their comments are unappreciated in their company and lack respect towards the women they themselves may know, like sisters, mothers, and daughters. I am sure none of us would appreciate a father, brother, or boyfriend making a remark that in some way objectifies and belittles a women’s individual value by marking her up as a sexual object. Instead, we should all be working towards creating a social consciousness that appreciates us as human beings, beyond our gender, our race, or our sexual orientation. We deserve to live in a society were fear is not our first instinct. Where the length of our skirt does not define the amount of negative attention we receive. Or the opinions we share to be stifled and ignored, told to come to terms with male behaviour as some form of normalcy in our lives. This is not normal. Fear of being raped is not normal. It is time we realize that the burden to change men is not on the shoulders of women. It is men who need to fix this type of thinking and support the movement toward a better equality amongst men and women. #himthough 

Unfortunately, each woman has been subjected to some form of emotional or physical abuse at the hands of a male, some strangers, others intimate lovers. Under no circumstance should we believe we are deserving of this behaviour, and we must remind one another that we are stronger, beautiful, and brilliant creatures that are so much more than the of our bodies. In the midst of sexual harassment and violence becoming a much more talked about and acknowledged concern within our societies, we must know how to recognize the issue and tackle it for ourselves and the future generations. So, we must speak out against this injustice, not merely as women, but as people who want equality and sense of being that goes beyond physicality. I encourage you all to check out @makerswomen which is a storytelling platform created by Justin Baldoni to reshape the way we see strong women and helps redefine concepts of masculinity and how these attitudes tie into behaviour toward women. 

Share this:

Post a Comment

Copyright © The ConveHERsation - For Her | By Her. Women Of Power INTL