As
a girl bound by society to become a woman, growing up I’m sure some
of us go through what I like to call “the speech”. That is when
your mother or auntie tell you that you are a princess meant to have
a prince by your side that will take care of you. Depending what
generation you are part of this “speech” can alter. It can go
from the castle with princes and princesses, knights and wizards to
husband and children, homemaker and housewife.
To
this day I cannot recall my mother ever telling me that I am a
princes in a castle faraway that needs saving. She never once
mentioned that I must have a certain size. She never told me that my
hair should be long because I am a girl and it is expected of me to
have long hair. She never told me I had to have a boyfriend just
because I was at that age when the other girls in my class had a
boyfriend and thus I must follow. She never told me I had to blend in
more and be more “sociable”. She never spoke to me about “the
exterior” of my body. However, I do remember her telling me I had
to go to school, I had to finish university and I had to get a job
that paid well. She also told me that no means no. She told me to be
bold and to be me. Possibly my mother isn’t the role model you
would expect. She’s made her mistakes and I have tried and still am
to forgive and understand. She has prepared me the best she thought
and the best she could.
So,
I grew up. I finished high school. I went to university. All this
time my mother told me the same. Be you, be honest and most
importantly have faith in yourself. At the time I found it ironic,
hilarious and quite frankly hypocritical. Why hypocritical? Well,
let’s just say at the time she was fare beyond the role model I had
once believed she was. Nevertheless, she taught me some valuable
lessons. Some, I remember to this day.
I
graduated university and now what? A job, a boyfriend, marriage,
mortgage, children… That would be for some, I’m sure many of you
reading this, the natural course of events. And it should be. I have
reached, at the moment, the second stage of that stirrup. I have a
stable job to a certain extent and I have to another extent a stable
boyfriend. Before getting the former though I had to go through many
obstacles and challenges and I am sure there are more to come. As for
the ones that I have been through I will never forget. I will never
forget how I was rejected because of my scars and I will never forget
how I was touched even when I said no.
Therefore,
I am not going towards the ultimate goal of becoming “a wonder
woman” capable to do it all and to do it unblemished. I am one of
those so called “millennials” learning every day what makes me
tick. I am at the start of the road as am sure many of you are. My
only instrument that I work with everyday, that I count on through
thick and thin is my
character…
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